If you asked Neese to pick a gender or a pronoun he would say he was a he, and that he was male... however concepts of gender were not quite the same in Faerie as they were in the mortal realm. Nothing was so solid and absolutely defined in Faerie as they were for mortals. Case in point - Neese could appear however he chose, and have all the working parts of any physical gender or species he chose, or some combination there of. Just as he did not appear in his natural form here and now.
Neese liked beautiful people, he didn't particularly care to limit his exploration of his own pleasure by something so simple as gender preference.
"I'm most delighted to make your acquaintance, my Lord Alain Evergliet," Neese said, casting upon him a warm smile as he stepped forward to offer the man his hand in greeting. As moved though, he glanced behind him, over his shoulder and cast a knowing smirk at Coriander as if to say - I noticed you looking. He turned his full attention back to the young would-be lord then.
"I have not been to Serendipity for... some time, and I must say," he glanced about the room, as if it were indeed the most splendid party he'd ever attended, "I am most pleased that my reintroduction to your people could occur here, of all places." His smile widened into something full of mirth and mischief when his hand connected with Alain's. In that moment, when their hands touched, something came unbidden into the young man's head - a memory long forgotten, burred, stolen. His kidnapping - the fright and confusion, palpable in his mind. Neese watched as the young man fought back the panic, seeing hands taking him, and dragging him off, a cloth thrown over his face - and yet he was still there in the room.
Alain shook his head. "My deepest apologies, I believe the wine may have gotten the best of me," the young man said, his grip on Neese's hand re-firming before he pulled it back. "It's my pleasure to meet you Lord Arlan. May I ask - Lord Arlan of where?" He had an inkling, everyone in the room likely had an inking of where the man was from, but he thought he would ask anyway.